Trust

Trust is a tricky thing.  We are supposed to learn from our mistakes but not blame others for the actions of the one's who came before.  How?  We are programmed to avoid pain (To the Sadomasochists out there, even the best program occasionally has an irregularity.).  Most would argue that emotional pain is as sharp and cutting as any blade, as deeply scalding as hot poured sugar on skin, and as permanent as the scars those things leave behind.  We program one another to think that the next person we let get close will inevitably follow the same pattern.  Keep this in mind the next time you cheat, or lie, or make the person you are with feel anything less than like they are the epicenter of your world.  That their radiance, their life force, their love ripples out through the stoney recesses of your life and shakes it up in a way that is equally destructive, creative, and beautiful in it's power.  If things don't work out between me and the person I am currently with, I only want the next person who's life they change forever to occasionally find the benefit of the doubt rather than every wrinkle the world throws at them being another warning sign of things to come.  Some of us know that the grass on the other side only looks greener because you aren't close enough to see the patches of brown, that beauty is as simple as belief.  You just have to believe in one another.  Believe that you both know what you have, how lucky you were to find it, and that you will not waste your time with a "what if" when you already have your "when".